IS IT GOOD COMPRESSORS OR GOOD MASTERING

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I produce Hip Hop and R&B music. I use alot of 808 kick drums in my music. After my music is mixed and mastered, I still find that the 808 drums do not sit the way I would like. To get the bang that I would like, I have to turn them up but then they over power the mix. If I turn them down to where they sit well in the mix, I don't get the bang that I would like. I would imagine that it's the way that I compress them but I don't know much about compression ratios. I hear how I want them to sound everyday in comercial music but I don't quite know how to recreate this. Does anyone have any tips or can anyone point me in the right direction?